Challenge the passing thought that you’d like to indulge in a sex act that is not on your OK list. Tell it to go away in no uncertain terms. Otherwise a seed will be planted that will grow into a real sex act instead of an imagined one. Maybe not today, maybe a week later, but you will find yourself back to your old tricks.
Play the video the whole way through. This means: don’t just imagine what the initial glimpse or touch will be like. Don’t just imagine the scene setter – accessing pornography, say. Go on to imagine what scrapes you will get into. What dark spot will you end up in? How much harm will you do to yourself and those around you? How many short months of misery before your life has unwound yet again?
The question of how to fill the time you used to spend on addictive behavior will arise. The cinema, evening classes, the gym and swimming are just a few examples. You could make your own list of things you’d intended to do. Also, you could sample many activities to see which ones spark an interest. If you are shy, amateur dramatics is a possibility, for example.
Avoid places where you partook in your addiction. Stop indulging in your addiction, go to meetings and, in between meetings, keep in touch with people you met at the meetings.